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Do you think people who do graffiti should be punished harshly? It seems guys and adults who break the law in our fine country get away with it far to often or with very few consequenses. I think there should be much more community service and much less jail time. Jail may be no picnic but it cost me money to put some sorry graffiti gang bangers butt in jail where as if I put the looser to work then maybe we can get something back from them. | | They should be made to pay back to the victim seven time the value of the damage | Is it wrong to be motivated by money? Should people butt out and mind their own business? 3 people have told me that i should do a subject at uni that i am passionate about. I'm doing accounting as a mature student and i am doing it because i'm good at maths and i want to get a good job so i can buy my own home and a nice car and so that if any husbands come along i dont have to rely on them for money so that if they bugger off i can support myself and any subsequent guys!! The thought of losing my home through divorce (as i see alot of people doing where i work) terrifies me!! I'm 24 so will already be 28 when i graduate, maybe if i was 18 i would do something like classics which i would love but i think that can come in as a hobby!! I wish they would butt out and stop telling me that i am daft for doing accounting. I know money doesn't buy happiness but being financially secure would give me peace of mind!! Cos at the minute i am broke and have a crappy banger of a car in the drive!! | The way you look at accounting is actually smart. it's good that someone of your age takes it seriously and being fiscally responsible is good for you and every company needs someone to manage it....... however maybe some of your reasons and bitterness do need to be address.
having financial security so you can tell people to bugger off when you need to is a little rough on the fortune telling. I think you have some great ideas and you have your head on straight.
Just work of trusting people more and some anger issues :) | Should I dump this friend? I need opinions and suggestions please. I'm a 50 yr old man and I have this 41 yr old male buddy with whom I became friends with almost 1 year ago. He's invited me over to BBQ's at his place and frequently calls me to meet him somewhere for happy hour. THE PROBLEM: He has started to wear those over-sized gang-banger pants falling off his butt with his cap turned backwards. The kind of pants gang-bangers are constantly pulling up. I dress rather conservative so it makes me uncomfortable, especially to be seen in public with him. I'm a professional office worker who is not into rap music nor the gang-banger rap style of dress. Because I'm feeling uncomfortable with my new buddy's style of dress, I am beginning to make excuses in order avoid him and am thinking about distancing myself from him altogether. He's a nice guy who seems to like me very much, so I'm feeling guilty about distancing myself from him. Yahoo users, what to you think? | | why don't you just tell him this? | Should Y! A Sponsor A ...? Sporting event? Pitting categories regulars against each other? Would P&S kick butt, or would we be the bangers on the bleachers giggling? | | i am gifted at nude twister...so im up for it | Are we all responsible for our own actions? So today I went and visited my old school and while I was visiting one of my old teachers, she told me to stay after school and see how our club was doing (I was president of this club that's why). So I agreed to stay, and see how it had progressed since I had left a few years ago.
To my surprise there was a guest speaker. Now the point of this man's lecture was about our actions.
As I sat and listened to this man speaking about how our actions were not our own faults, I started to get mad. He told them that it was not their faults if they got bad grades because since the school and surrounding neighborhood was poor, there wasn't much expected of them, so the government ignored them. He told that if they were arrested or went to prison, it wasn't their faults because we were raised in a bad neighborhood so it rubbed off on us. He told them that we suffer for our parents mistakes, which I TOTALLY agree about, but he said because we suffer for their mistakes we'll never get to do anything like the rich guys or guys who's parents are "well" off. He told them it was ok if they didn't go to college because the government didn't even try to invest money into this poor neighborhoods, so it wasn't expected of them.
By this time, I was infuriated and had stood up on my own and went down there and started to tell him how wrong he was! I could let him tell these guys, who were Freshmen to Seniors in High School, that their actions were not their faults. I told them we all are responsible for our actions, I told them that if you get bad grades in school it's no one Else's' fault but your own! It doesn't matter what neighborhood you grew up in, yes some school may have a better curriculum because they have more money, but that's it! If they were arrested or thrown in jail, that again was their fault. It does not matter about your neighborhood, you chose your own decisions, if you chose to do something illegal the blame falls on you. Now of course there are special circumstances, like if someone makes you do something illegal in threat of your life, but if the police knew and did an investigation, the blame would fall on that person not you. He said we suffer for our parents mistakes, which again I totally agree with, but to say because of them well never get to do stuff the rich guys will do, NO! If you work hard enough you can do whatever you want! If you have the drive, ambition and passion about something you WILL get it done, no matter what mistakes your parents made. And the last one saying it wasn't expected of them to go to college, was the straw that broke the camels back! EVERYONE should go to college, no matter what! It does not matter your background or your family or your neighborhood, NOTHING MATTERS, just the fact that you graduated from high school and you want to better your life is the MOST important thing!
I told him, that I came from this neighborhood, I came up in this poverty, I told him I was the FIRST person in my family to EVER go to college, EVER! And I told him for the first person EVER in my family to go to college, getting into Brown University, wasn't so bad! I made those choices to go there, I worked my butt off, I didn't let my neighborhood or the gang bangers or drug dealers get to me, yes my mothers mistakes affected me, but not to the extend that if would ruin my life. I told him that it was our choice, everyday we make choices that affect our future, hell sitting here and agreeing with him was a choice they had to make. But the choice to pass blame onto others was horrific. By the time I had gotten all of this of my chest, I had the full support of my old teacher and most of the students who I persuaded, though some still like to pass the blame.
But then I remembered back in my Psych class we had the same argument, I had some people saying the same thing I was saying and there were some people who said what he was saying. Now I can only take my stance because some say I came out of poverty so I have it in my head anyone can, while others say not everyone can do that.
So since I have no to argue with here, at least intellectually, I want to know is this how other people feel to or do some of you feel our actions are not of our own, that sometimes, we don't have control.
I would like if you agree or disagree, state why you agree or disagree, give me examples or something to support what you're saying. I just don't want it to be like "well Im right because Im louder" type of conversation. And I am open to all sides of this, but I just couldn't let his say that to those guys.
So Im not looking for someone to reinforce what I'm saying, I just want to know your opinions on this. | I would have to agree with you on that matter for the most part, because as in every issue there are definitely gray areas.
I agree with the fact that we should be held accountable for our own actions. After all, a conscience is what divides us from a common dog, or any other animal for that matter. I think it was very wrong of someone such as a guest speaker, someone who is in a position where he can be influential to people, especially the young people, to stand there and tell them that it is not their fault that they screw up their lives by making bad decisions. He is basically telling them that it is OK to lead a life of no real dreams whatsoever, because they couldn't possibly be realized anyway. It makes their lack of money sound like they're handicapped and unable of achieving anything.
I somewhat agree with the fact that guyren have to suffer their parents mistakes because parents are a huge influence that can make or break you in a way. But, I still don't think the money factor can really be blamed on the parents forever. Once someone is able to get a job and support themselves, it is possible for them to build their own work ethic, habits, life. I think the parents are more accountable for any psychological damage. Damage which can be done when the guys are young that might make them feel inadequate or unable to be strong enough to build a happy life for themselves. But then again, looks like the guest speakers are doing all that for them.
My parents have never been rich, and have never had a break and have been dealt some pretty shitty cards, but I don't blame them for it. It's not their fault. But that's just my personal experience, I'm sure there are parents that can be blamed for things like that. Blamed... someone has to take the blame thats the bottom line. It only makes sense that we take the blame for our own actions.
So even though I personally have never been rich, have always struggled, I'm doing OK. I never thought of my life as being over because of that. Sure, I do agree with the fact that you can get more places faster if you have more money, but thats only because todays society is run by people who worship money and will do anything for it. Which, is what pretty much causes all this division, prejudice, and the whole mindset in the first place. If we all start measuring people's worth or potential based on their bank accounts, we're only adding to the problem. I don't think the point of life is to make as much money as you can, it's to be able to look at yourself at the end of the day and like yourself a bit more that you did yesterday. And I'm not talking about anything religious either. I am an atheist myself and I believe that I can be moral without a religion, but, that is a whoooole nother story for another time. :) | Mom wants cousin to come live with me. How do i stop it? My mom claims that it will be better for him to come live with us. I guess he is scared to go to school in his state because he lives in the "hood". But i used to live in that same neighborhood and i know that my neighborhood is worse. Basically where he lives theres a lot of gang bangers and stuff but if you're like a good guy they wont mess with you. Where i live if you can't fight you are gonna get beat up everyday. And if you talk mess you will get shot.
And my mom says i gotta share a room with him. He is mad gross. He is super fat. He stinks he doesn't have good hygeine at all. Apparently his mom has to clean his butt with a rag and he is 14 years old. Da phuck? And i gotta share a room? I am 17 years old and i pay friggin rent.
He is also a little snitch. Basically he listens to everyone conversations and stuff and then runs and tells my mom/his mom. Thats the main reason i don't want him going to school with me. Hes gonna go home and tell my mom every little thing that i did. Hes gonna tell her when i have girls over. Hes gonna tell her when i go out. When i go to a party. All that.
I feel like i won't even be comfortable in my own house. He like walks around depressed because he doesn't have friends. He doesn't have friends because he is fat and gross. And its not gonna be better for him at my school. My school is like the popular place. Basically its a real bad school and so only the most popular people choose to go there. You don't have to be super popular but you gotta be social. If you can't kick it nobody will talk to you and there will be no other loners for you to make friends with. He doesn't talk he just walks around mugging at people. And my mom wants me to hang out with him? PHUUUUCK. Am i wrong to hate him? How can i stop him from moving here? | | Yes you are wrong. And you can't do anything about it. It's not your house. | Mom wants cousin to come live with me. How do i stop it? My mom claims that it will be better for him to come live with us. I guess he is scared to go to school in his state because he lives in the "hood". But i used to live in that same neighborhood and i know that my neighborhood is worse. Basically where he lives theres a lot of gang bangers and stuff but if you're like a good guy they wont mess with you. Where i live if you can't fight you are gonna get beat up everyday. And if you talk mess you will get shot.
And my mom says i gotta share a room with him. He is mad gross. He is super fat. He stinks he doesn't have good hygeine at all. Apparently his mom has to clean his butt with a rag and he is 14 years old. Da phuck? And i gotta share a room? I am 17 years old and i pay friggin rent.
He is also a little snitch. Basically he listens to everyone conversations and stuff and then runs and tells my mom/his mom. Thats the main reason i don't want him going to school with me. Hes gonna go home and tell my mom every little thing that i did. Hes gonna tell her when i have girls over. Hes gonna tell her when i go out. When i go to a party. All that.
I feel like i won't even be comfortable in my own house. He like walks around depressed because he doesn't have friends. He doesn't have friends because he is fat and gross. And its not gonna be better for him at my school. My school is like the popular place. Basically its a real bad school and so only the most popular people choose to go there. You don't have to be super popular but you gotta be social. If you can't kick it nobody will talk to you and there will be no other loners for you to make friends with. He doesn't talk he just walks around mugging at people. And my mom wants me to hang out with him? PHUUUUCK. Am i wrong to hate him? How can i stop him from moving here? | if you are paying rent then tell your mom that you will stop paying rent if you have to share a room with him. tell your mom how you feel and that you don't want him to live with you and that you will be miserable, etc. you will be an adult in a year so act like a grownup and talk to your mom and tell her.
if you stop paying rent you will have money to buy a phone yourself. you can go to walmart or anywhere and get a (Pre-Paid) phone. You need to explain to your mom that you are paying rent for that room and you don't have to share it with anyone. That's what rent is. You are paying to live there and you have a say in what happens. She can't expect you to share your house or room when you are paying rent. She is being unreasonable. Tell her you will never talk to her again if it happens or you will move out and go live with a friend or something or tell her that if he moves in he can stay in her room. Tell her she can't FORCE you to become friends with him and hang out, etc. I am old enough to be your mom and I think your mom is being extremely selfish and unreasonable. I would want MY CHILD to come first and would want you to be happy. I still think you need to talk to her. She obviously doesn't know how you feel (unless she is a horrible selfish mother).
Why doesn't he stay with some other family member or friend? | Who else thinks that the Neon R/T is pure 4-banger muscle? I love Neon R/T's! They kick butt. They look great and drive great. A lot of my friends think that Neon's suck, and would rather have a Honda! Just shoot me now! An R/T would crush a Honda!!! | I own a Neon too...Hondas are fer yuppies.....
120,000..mine is just gettin' broke in! | If i like these movies, what else will i like? The 'burbs (1989)
"Bam's Unholy Union" (2007)
"Beavis and Butt-Head" (1993)
"The Facts of Life" (1979)
"Full House" (1987)
"Growing Pains" (1985)
"Jackass" (2000)
"Rose Red" (2002) (mini)
"Roseanne" (1988)
"Star Trek: The Next Generation" (1987)
"Tales from the Crypt" (1989)
"Tales from the Crypt" (1989)
"Tales from the Crypt" (1989)
"Viva la Bam" (2003)
"The Wonder Years" (1988)
101 Dalmatians (1996)
1408 (2007)
50 First Dates (2004)
Ace Ventura: When Nature Calls (1995)
Adventures in Babysitting (1987)
Airheads (1994)
The Amityville Horror (1979)
The Amityville Horror (2005)
Anastasia (1997)
Anger Management (2003)
Animal House (1978)
Arachnophobia (1990)
Armageddon (1998/I)
Augusta, Gone (2006) (TV)
The Banger Sisters (2002)
The Basketball Diaries (1995)
Beautiful Girls (1996)
Beavis and Butt-Head Do America (1996) | hmmm... i didnt like some of the movies that were on our list so i dont think i can recommend any movies... because you might not like them. but here are some:
raging bull
taxi driver
apocalypse now
a clockwork orange
chinatown | This guy watched me get beat up. Should I forgive him and start a relationship? When we were in high school I got beat up by a gang banger while this guy was walking me home from school. Fastforward 20 years and we are now really good friends. I'm attracted to him, and I think he's marriage material; however, in the back of my mind I remember being 16 and getting my butt kicked while he watched.
He liked me and he would walk me home after school, and we would be so into each other I would walk him to the bus stop and wait for his bus to come before leaving to go back home. I lived in a really bad area, so I liked having the company home because I was really small.
One time we were walking and I stopped at a friend's apartment and I had him wait downstairs while I went to speak to my friend. There was a gang banger on the steps that liked me and he propositioned me when I was walking down the stairs. He asked me when I was going to let him (have sex). I told him never and he said "don't come down this block anymore 'B'". My friend told me to keep walking. I couldn't believe he would let someone call me a B in his presence. I turned and slapped the gang banger and the kicked me in the face. I flew into my friend's arms, and repeated the same thing...slap/kick.
Then the gang banger's friends crossed the street and stopped the fight. My friend watched and didn't try to fight the guy.
This was 20 years ago, but it's still in my mind. When I talk to people we went to high school some say let it go because he was a guy. Some say that I shouldn't give him the time of day. | First of all you shouldn't have slapped a gang banger. That was your fault. You should have listened to him. Secondly they probably would have killed your friend if he tried to step in.
i think he made the right decision. Sorry!
if you're still not over it then ask him. i think he was a guy and scared at the time, I'm sure as he has aged he would have less fear but still...it's not smart to fight so perhaps run away first and if he has a good cell phone, a call to the cops would be more approriate should that ever happen in the future. |
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